Dec 17, 20181 min read

Just Another Day in Chelsea

STORY: 2004ish – I was staying in a friend’s apartment on 17th Street off Eighth Avenue in Chelsea, then Manhattan’s gayest neighborhood,...

Jun 9, 20185 min read

The Barbarian and the Gay

STORY: 1998-1999—In 1998, my investment bank offered me a position heading up a group in its Tokyo office. I was reluctant to go, but it...

Jun 9, 20183 min read

Hotlanta Hotmen

STORY: August 1991/1992 - One of the more enjoyable phenomena to emerge from the 1980s, a challenging decade for gay men, to say the...

Jun 9, 20181 min read

Group Travel, Rio–1990’s style

STORY: 1989 to mid-1990s– My husband, Ron Oyer, had a travel business in the 1990s that catered to gay men, geographically mostly from...

Jun 8, 20181 min read

Group Travel, Rio—1990s style

STORY: 1989 to mid-1990s—My husband, Ron Oyer, had a travel business in the 1990s that catered to gay men, geographically mostly from...

May 7, 20181 min read

Group Travel, Puerto Vallarta–1990s style

1989 to mid-1990s –My husband, Ron Oyer, had a travel business in the 1990s that catered to gay men, geographically mostly from...

Mar 11, 20181 min read

Muscle on the Rocks

STORY: Gay Games III in Vancouver (British Columbia) in August 1990 was a transformative experience for me and many others: it was the...

Mar 11, 20181 min read

Tuxedo Rebellion

February 1992 – I went on consecutive RSVP Caribbean winter cruises in 1991 and 1992. The cruise line used to require its mostly male...