Jolly Roger!

BAMMER47: I recently was sent an article on the concept of matelotage, a common rite among pirates and some other sailors on the open...

Apr 6, 20212 min read

Re-introducing Hook-ups Post-COVID

BAMMER47: How do you expect to recommence hooking up, or at least having sex with someone outside your COVID pod, once conditions permit?...

Apr 6, 20212 min read

The One that Got Away?

BAMMER47 (1976): Have ever felt like you missed a golden opportunity for a relationship with the person you were meant to be with? The...

Apr 6, 20212 min read

What's the Secret to a Long, Happy Relationship

BAMMER47: In the LGBTQ world, until recently (and depending on where you reside, even now), we lacked the advantage of support from our...

Mar 17, 20211 min read

Porn Star Turned Therapist

BAMMER47: When I met Stu Fenton at a Fire Island pool party in August 1999, he didn’t divulge much about his life. But, when we...

Mar 14, 20212 min read

Poppers

BAMMER47: Poppers! Some gay men love their stimulating properties for sex and dancing, while others can’t stand that they may leave you...

Mar 13, 20212 min read

Uniformity

BAMMER47: Does a good-looking man in a uniform especially turn you on? Uniforms have been a fetish for gay men for generations. Whether...

Mar 13, 20212 min read

Is Screwing an Essential Part of Gay Sex?

BAMMER47: Do you feel physical play between two gay men that does NOT include anal penetration should qualify as sex? In a previous post,...

Mar 13, 20211 min read

Boston After Dark in 1975: My First Time

BAMMER47: The first time I had sex with a guy happened after, with much trepidation, I answered a personal ad in the After Dark section...

Mar 13, 20213 min read

Fetishizing the Belongings of an Unrequited Crush

BAMMER47: Have you ever had a crush on a guy you couldn’t reveal, so you fetishized a belonging of his as a way of feeling closer to him?...

Mar 13, 20212 min read

The History of Organized Male Nude Swimming in the U.S.

BAMMER47: Did you know that, until the 1960s, it was a widespread requirement that boys who swam in segregated groups in public school...

Mar 13, 20212 min read

How Meaningful Are Straight Friends in your LGBTQ life?

BAMMER47: From everything you hear and read, younger LGBTQers today are much more inclusive and non-discriminatory, as a rule, than the...

Mar 13, 20212 min read